Self Confidence Tips

Today We Are Rich

After his father was murdered, Tim Sanders went on a downward spiral. Angered at the injustice, his lack of faith causes him to disregard everything his grandmother had taught him on self confidence tips and living a successful life.

He haphazardly finished his college studies and bounced from job to job living paycheck to paycheck. His life was dominated by a loss of self confidence.

Several years later, Tim decides that he has had enough and is ready to get back to the basics. He calls his grandmother who had raised him from the age of four. Billye asks him, "What are you not doing these days that you were doing during your senior year in high school and your early days in college?"

He remembers the self confidence he once had and and the daily habits he had practiced.

She tells him to reread the masters for building confidence and self esteem:

  • James Allen
  • Claude Bristol
  • Dale Carnegie
  • Napoleon Hill
  • Dr. Maxwell Maltz
  • Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Billye then says words which he has not heard in over a decade, "Today we are rich!" Since that conversation with his grandmother, Tim has never been poor.

How to Boost Self Confidence

7 Principles of Total Confidence

  1. Feed Your Mind Good Stuff
  2. Move The Conversation Forward
  3. Exercise Your Gratitude Muscle
  4. Give To Be Rich
  5. Prepare Your Self
  6. Balance Your Confidence
  7. Promise Made, Promise Kept

Feed Your Mind Good Stuff (Self Confidence Tips - 1 of 7)

Self Confidence Tips NewsBe selective about your news sources. As Billye says, "Many of them are "scare merchants, selling soap by dirtying our minds."

Just recently, I glanced at the local online news where the following headlines jumped out at me:

  • Violent domestic dispute ends in stabbing
  • Young girl dies at hospital after near drowning
  • Man severely beaten by mob

In The Power of Positive Thinking, Dr. Peale states, "What comes out of the mind is what you put in the mind. You must feed your mind like you feed your body."

Move The Conversation Forward (Self Confidence Tips - 2 of 7)

Use your power of choice to determine how to handle information. Billye says to swallow the nut but "dump the shells." Look for the positive or useful aspect that is always there and throw away the rest.

Self Confidence Tips ThinkFrame the news you receive.

"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."
~Shakespeare in Hamlet

The function of the emotional center in our brain is more powerful that the function of our logical center, says Dr. Daniel Goleman in Emotional Intelligence. Being aware of this allows us to better control our responses.

Another way to move forward is to make decisions and execute. Decision comes from the latin word decidere which means to cut off. Decide and move on.

Words and phrases move conversations forward, backward or sideways. The subconscious mind hears everything you say. It takes notes and produces feelings and physiological responses.

Exercise Your Gratitude Muscle (Self Confidence Tips - 3 of 7)

According to Billye, "gratitude is a muscle, not a feeling." Because if it was a feeling, you'd feel it all the time.

Exercise your gratitude muscle every day. Perception is key. Most of us pay more attention to what is wrong versus what is right.

"It is conscious thinking which is the 'control knob' of your unconscious machine."
~Maxwell Maltz

Remember back to some of your old, "I'll be happy when..." Know that the 'someday' you wished for is now today.

Relish your thoughts on things you are looking forward to. If you can worry, you can imagine success!

Start each day with appreciation and keep a gratitude journal. You will be amazed at the difference this step alone will make in your life.

Give to be Rich (Self Confidence Tips - 4 of 7)

Scarcity is an illusion - a self-imposed nightmare. When you think you don't have enough of something, give some away.


Is only an illusion created in your own mind

Your subconscious is directed by your actions. If you give what you feel you lack, you are telling it that there is actually a surplus.

Generosity is also a muscle. And giving must have the right motivation, or it defeats the purpose.


  • As a reflection of your values - something near and near and dear to your heart.
  • To empower others - give to others what you want for yourself and to growothers' capabilities.
  • And expect nothing in return - do it because you like to and you can.
  • All the time - the more you do it, the better you get and the more you get out of it.

Prepare Your Self (Self Confidence Tips - 5 of 7)

Self Confidence Tips LearnYour challenges are usually deeper than your level of preparation. Developing a deep foundation will likely push you out of your comfort zone.

Get smart.

"Successful men, in all callings, never stop acquiring specialized knowledge related to their major purpose, business or profession."
~Napoleon Hill
  • Readers are leaders - when marketing guru Seth Godin wrote Linchpin: Are You Indispensable? he read over 100 books on the subject, although he was already considered an expert in many areas.
  • Network knowledge - form a think tank, your own Master Mind group to share important knowledge.
  • Mentorizing - you'll never get dumber by making someone else smarter.

Balance Your Confidence (Self Confidence Tips - 6 of 7)

Self Confidence Tips FaithDr. Peale wrote, "the most powerful force in human nature is the spiritual-power technique taught in the Bible... faith in God, faith in other people, faith in yourself."

When you have these three beliefs, you have balance. If one runs short, the other two will fill it up.

When we improve our self image, our subconscious will pursue success.

"Our Self-Image prescribes the limits for the accomplishment of any particular goals."
~Maxwell Maltz

Promise Made, Promise Kept (Self Confidence Tips - 7 of 7)

Keep your promises. You may forget about a promise that you made and did not keep, but your subconscious does not. This unfinished business will crop up during challenges and cause you to think that you can't finish this.

"Our habits are literally garments worn by our personalities."
~Maxwell Maltz

If you quit a bad habit, such as smoking, your self image improves and expands the limits of what's possible.

Keeping promises results in growth experiences and personal victories. Respect for yourself maintains your self image and your self confidence.

Self Confidence Tips for a Successful Life

These seven self confidence tips may sound like common sense. But, they are widely and consistently followed by the most successful people. And deliberately practicing them will change your life for the better.

Read Today We Are Rich: Harnessing the Power of Total Confidence

"There may be no heroic connotation to the word 'persistence,' but the quality is to the character of man what carbon is to steel."
~Napoleon Hill