After his father was murdered, Tim Sanders went on a downward spiral. Angered at the injustice, his lack of faith causes him to disregard everything his grandmother had taught him on self confidence tips and living a successful life.
He haphazardly finished his college studies and bounced from job to job living paycheck to paycheck. His life was dominated by a loss of self confidence.
Several years later, Tim decides that he has had enough and is ready to get back to the basics. He calls his grandmother who had raised him from the age of four. Billye asks him, "What are you not doing these days that you were doing during your senior year in high school and your early days in college?"
He remembers the self confidence he once had and and the daily habits he had practiced.
She tells him to reread the masters for building confidence and self esteem:
Billye then says words which he has not heard in over a decade, "Today we are rich!" Since that conversation with his grandmother, Tim has never been poor.
Be selective about your news sources. As Billye says, "Many of them are "scare merchants, selling soap by dirtying our minds."
Just recently, I glanced at the local online news where the following headlines jumped out at me:
In The Power of Positive Thinking, Dr. Peale states, "What comes out of the mind is what you put in the mind. You must feed your mind like you feed your body."
Use your power of choice to determine how to handle information. Billye says to swallow the nut but "dump the shells." Look for the positive or useful aspect that is always there and throw away the rest.
Frame the news you receive.
"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."
~Shakespeare in Hamlet
The function of the emotional center in our brain is more powerful that the function of our logical center, says Dr. Daniel Goleman in Emotional Intelligence. Being aware of this allows us to better control our responses.
Another way to move forward is to make decisions and execute. Decision comes from the latin word decidere which means to cut off. Decide and move on.
Words and phrases move conversations forward, backward or sideways. The subconscious mind hears everything you say. It takes notes and produces feelings and physiological responses.
According to Billye, "gratitude is a muscle, not a feeling." Because if it was a feeling, you'd feel it all the time.
Exercise your gratitude muscle every day. Perception is key. Most of us pay more attention to what is wrong versus what is right.
"It is conscious thinking which is the 'control knob' of your unconscious machine."
Remember back to some of your old, "I'll be happy when..." Know that the 'someday' you wished for is now today.
Relish your thoughts on things you are looking forward to. If you can worry, you can imagine success!
Start each day with appreciation and keep a gratitude journal. You will be amazed at the difference this step alone will make in your life.
Scarcity is an illusion - a self-imposed nightmare. When you think you don't have enough of something, give some away.
Is only an illusion created in your own mind
Your subconscious is directed by your actions. If you give what you feel you lack, you are telling it that there is actually a surplus.
Generosity is also a muscle. And giving must have the right motivation, or it defeats the purpose.
Your challenges are usually deeper than your level of preparation. Developing a deep foundation will likely push you out of your comfort zone.
"Successful men, in all callings, never stop acquiring specialized knowledge related to their major purpose, business or profession."
Dr. Peale wrote, "the most powerful force in human nature is the spiritual-power technique taught in the Bible... faith in God, faith in other people, faith in yourself."
When you have these three beliefs, you have balance. If one runs short, the other two will fill it up.
When we improve our self image, our subconscious will pursue success.
"Our Self-Image prescribes the limits for the accomplishment of any particular goals."
Keep your promises. You may forget about a promise that you made and did not keep, but your subconscious does not. This unfinished business will crop up during challenges and cause you to think that you can't finish this.
"Our habits are literally garments worn by our personalities."
If you quit a bad habit, such as smoking, your self image improves and expands the limits of what's possible.
Keeping promises results in growth experiences and personal victories. Respect for yourself maintains your self image and your self confidence.
These seven self confidence tips may sound like common sense. But, they are widely and consistently followed by the most successful people. And deliberately practicing them will change your life for the better.
"There may be no heroic connotation to the word 'persistence,' but the quality is to the character of man what carbon is to steel."